Archive | March 2012

Woman to Woman…

Over the weekend I witnessed something that sparked a desire to talk with you woman to woman about keeping yourself safe, in situations that between you and your significant other or spouse can start small but then snowball into something big and possibly out of control.

 Your man  knows  how to push those buttons that tick you off and make you crazy…(just  like you know his) and then the thing is… that he can be so calm and cool, while your pissed and upset that if someone comes around that hasn’t seen the WHOLE picture they would think that you are a little crazed!

So now you’re arguing or maybe not really arguing because he’s not saying anything which of course makes you madder! And before you know it, to get his attention and show how pissed off you are you’ve gone to that next step! YoU hit him! Now that’s where I really worry…  Yes!  He may have given you every reason in the world to feel justified in hitting him but…..hopefully you’re man is man enough to not hit you back… but know that there are men of the mindset that if you want to dish it out like a man you should be able to take it like a man and they hit you back! Now, the original problem is compounded by a physical altercation.

Ladies…you do not want a man to have the excuse of saying “well she hit me first” as a reason to hurt you…and understand too that if you hit your man he may respond out of instinct of protecting himself first and that it’s a woman second and…if alcohol or drugs are in the mix that’s more fuel for the fire.

Being angry …I’m sorry to say does not give us the right to physically harm our men…and trust me I have in my life time had an occasion or two of wanting to lash out at a significant other, thinking that I would at least feel better…however,I know that every action begets a reaction and two wrongs don’t make a right and more important I always believe that I have to answer to a higher power for my actions! ( That is what has kept me sane! 🙂 )

Keep in mind that when we reduce our relationships to verbal and physical abuse we are chipping away at the respect for ourselves as well as the other party…and even if we say I’m sorry… it’s very difficult to take hurtful things back once they have rolled off your tongue and… once respect is lost everything else begins to go with it at which time we really need to reevaluate why we are in the relationship?

Do you have fair fighting tips to share?

Would you attend couples workshops to learn how to be better partners and  communicators  before problems arise?

I invite you to check out my book, A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness at http://www.ameenahross.com for more tools for happier living. – Ameenah

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Before you snap! and lose your sanity…think about this…

                                 

 

Grab some privacy  (closet, bathroom,etc.)… count to 10 – take a deep breath and yell to the top of your lungs.

(You will feel better and if anyone has heard you they will definitely stay out of your way! )

Know that the only thing definite in life is that you will not get out of this world alive!

 Most other things are possible.

Even in the most challenging of situations, things could worse!

( count your blessings)

Cry if you need to, but don’t cry too long. Crying cleanses your eyes – signals a problem …

expresses physical pain, but don’t drown in your tears.

Remember: after every rain the sun will shine.

Do not let other’s control your happiness.

Laugh often! It Is truly one of the best and most potent of medicines. Laugh at yourself… with your love ones and friends— a good book — a good movie. Find things that tickle your funny bone.

I have a bright red clown nose that I keep with me…you should she the reaction when I put it on! First it’s what the heck is that! then it makes you laugh and of course you think I must be crazy! I’ve put it on while driving in  bumper to bumper traffic and just looked out of the window…you can imagine the looks when people notice me…I have never seen it not bring a smile to someone’s face! Yes, I look nutty but it works…for a moment your mind is off the traffic and on the  crazy lady and that decreases your stress and you think about what silly thing you saw while sitting in traffic! Ahh, you think…she’s lost her sanity!!!

 What tricks do you have to keep you sane when people around you are acting crazy???

I invite you to check out my book, A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness at http://www.ameenahross.com for more tools for happier living. – Ameenah

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Take time to be still !

Still adj. 1. Free from sound; silent. 2. Motionless. 3. Free from disturbance; tranquil
The American Heritage Dictionary

Do you remember the last time you were still? The last time you sat and relaxed in total silence, no phone ringing, no television blasting, no face book or text beckoning your attention. No music playing or family member calling your name or you… simply busying yourself with something?

Do you remember the last time your mind was free from clutter free from work…family and friends?
Just YoU, silent…motionless…tranquil, alone but not lonely, peaceful in the cocoon of your stillness.

You begin to be aware of the beating of your heart, and the rhythm of your respiration’s. Tune in to the needs of your body ….Focus on your breathing …r e l a x… How miraculous, this thing called life.
Your spirit renews, the answers to puzzling questions are revealed, and the creative juices will flow. Many things become possible when we take the time to be still.

Will YoU take the time?

Ameenah Ross is a nurse, freelance writer and author of Depression free…A Wise Woman’s guide to healing and Happiness.

I invite you to check out my book, A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness at http://www.ameenahross.com for more tools for happier living. – Ameenah

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Gifts not bought or sold

You never know when the spirit has sent you along to give an encouraging word…a smile…a hug, or just an extended hand that someone needs to hold.

You may be unaware of how much a seemingly little thing you did cheered a heart, lifted one’s spirit or touched a soul…but somewhere down the line when you least expect it …but need it the most…that encouraging word…that warm smile… hug… or that extended hand will come back for you to hold, and the blessings start all over again. It’s a reflection of God’s miracles… the sun that rises every morning and sets every evening, the butterfly that emerges from its cocoon displaying a magnificent work of art, and You!

Have a Wonderful weekend and hope we meet up again on Monday!

Oh and please feel free to make any comments!

Ameenah  Ross is a nurse, writer and author of Depression Free…A  Wise Woman’s Guide To healing and Happiness

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Lunch Special !

Hi there…Thanks for coming back! And if you’re new, welcome and hope to see you again!

So  you know how most of us are always on one diet or another, trying to get healthy? … or maybe… just for once…  be able to buy something really sexy out of Victoria’s Secret. Something that will have your man smiling for days!

Well today I have the Ultimate diet! You can eat all you want! Absolutely no limitations…No calories…no carbohydrates…no sugar or salt, and it’s loaded with flavor.  You can’t beat that!

Today’s lunch special is Food for Thought …have as much as you like and if it’s too much, share it with a friend… enjoy!

10 Tips to feed your soul

1.      Let God be the captain of your ship.

2.      Be kind and forgiving to yourself.

3.      Sometimes you can talk too much.

4.      Sometimes you can … not talk enough.

5.      Stand up for yourself and what you believe.

6.      Don’t wait for someone to give you flowers…give them to yourself.

7.      Love yourself first!… because only then  can you truly love someone else.

8.      Value your time and use it wisely … it’s the one thing that you will never get back!

9.      Your heart can feel like it’s been broken in a million pieces, but God can mend it back like  new.

10.    Don’t let your ego or pride keep you from saying ” I’m sorry” or ” I love you.”

Well, I  surely hope your meal was satisfactory…It was a pleasure serving you and please come again and… “oh, if there is something not on the menu you may like next time, let us know!!

Have a Wonderful day!!

Ameenah Ross is a nurse, free lance writer and author of Depression Free… A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness

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This is love!

” Didn’t I tell you I would always take care of you?…that I would always love you…You still love me ? ”

With that he gently kissed her on the cheek. She didn’t speak but her smile said it all. He knew she understood, and it didn’t matter that he had to wipe the saliva drooling down the side of her mouth. It made no difference that he had to wait outside of her room while an aide changed her diaper. He loved her in her sickness and in health.

His eyes lit up and a big smile covered his face as he had cheerfully, with a bounce in his step walked down the nursing home corridor looking for his baby. She still brightened his day and from the expression on her face, he hers.

I was a nurse working the day shift when I witnessed this touching exchange between two lovers totally unaware of my presence.

John and Marianne were well over 70. In time John more than likely became a resident as well. I hope Marianne lived long enough to be with him. If not, it was clear that with the love they shared , their spirits are forever connected.

” Marianne, will you marry me? ” I heard him ask. ” I can’t she answered. “I’m already married.” John smiled and kissed her hand.

At a time when long-term marriages are rare, this was a reminder of what marriage is supposed to be…

Love and commitment.

 

What are you committed to today??

I invite you to check out my book, A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness at http://www.ameenahross.com for more tools for happier living. – Ameenah

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First day of the rest of our lives!

Hello out there in cyberspace! … I don’t know exactly where you are, but I’m in Maryland, and today it’s absolutely gorgeous outside…the flowers are blossoming… the birds are chirping…Spring is in the air!

Earlier this morning, I sat in my car on the 5th deck of the parking garage where I work, watching the sunrise….I do that often and sometimes bring  my  camera, get out and take pictures. An awesome sight and a humbling experience.
I feel God when I witness that and it serves as a reminder to me that no matter what happened yesterday…this my friend… is a brand spanking new day! Yesterday is gone…tomorrow…God willing will come… but today is a new day!

I’m going to share 5 things I’m grateful for today and then… how about you?

  1. I was blessed to wake up, look up, get out of bed… and take care of me
  2. My phone didn’t ring during the night bearing bad news
  3. I saw the sunrise with its spectacular colors
  4. I felt the warm breeze brush against my face and heard the birds chirping in the trees…made me smile
  5. I get to share my thoughts and gifts with you!

Now my friend it’s your turn….what 5 things are you grateful for today?

Ameenah Ross is a nurse, freelance writer, and author of the inspirational book: Depression Free, A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness.

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