Tag Archive | depression

Are You Ready To Make a Choice?

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Happy or sad.

Love or hate.

Optimistic or pessimistic.

Grateful or unappreciative.

Holding on to baggage or taking it to the dump.

Living with passion & a purpose or just existing.

In control of your life or being controlled by circumstances.

How’s life’s journey going so far? Is there anything you’d like to change … another path you’d like to take?
The great thing is that we’re  responsible for our own lives and therefore have the power to change the path we’re traveling.
Sometimes… F.E.A.R. (False Expectations Appearing Real) creeps in and it feels safer to do nothing…but I’ve learned to feel the fear and do it anyway! (the name of a great book I read years ago) I take little steps…like testing the pool water before plunging in for a swim.

Each day we get a little older and the reality is that none of us will get out of this world alive! So…hmm…do you want to live it striving for passion and purpose or are you content to just exist day-to-day …year to year? I’ve decided to shoot for the stars and maybe …just maybe, I’ll at least land on the moon!

We are all blessed with a gift…a talent …something we’re to share with the world… Are you ready to make your presence known?

Please join me if you can for a meet and Greet Book Signing on August 24th

Ameenah Ross book signing, 8.24.14

or visit me at http://www.ameenahross.com/#!our-coaches/cktc

Unplug from the World…Tune in to Self!

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Hi There! For my previously dedicated followers,  I deeply apologize for my disappearing act. And for my new visitors, WELCOME, and I hope you come back!

Over 20 years ago I went through a bout with depression.  Me…a nurse! In fact, ironically, I was working on the psychiatric unit at a hospital at the time; doing a good job of taking care of everyone but myself! One weekend I overdosed on prescription and over the counter medications; luckily I awoke in an emergency room instead of on the side of the unknown!

That day, I had two options.  One would be to lay there at the bottom of my dark hole I had been spiraling down for months and just disconnect from the world. I had seen many patients check out from reality and live quietly in their own private bubble. No worries, no stuff to deal with. Option 2, was that I would begin to confront the pain and disappointments in my life, and start peeling the layers off until I got to a place where I could see a glimmer of hope for myself.  I happily chose the latter, and am a witness that we can change our lives!

This past March my two friends and I embarked on a 7 day cruise to the Caribbean to have some real ME time for ourselves.  It was blissful!

The cool thing was that from the time our ship departed until it came back to the home port our cell phones were off and no one brought lap tops.  No texts to read, no calls to return…no emails to check. I frankly didn’t know I could survive without checking messages!

Though we spent a lot of time together we also spent time in our own space. For me it was a perfect time for introspection. Was I following my own spiritual path? Was I waking up each day passionate about what I was doing with my life…where I was, and where I still wanted to go?

I was pretty happy with my answers.  My life needs tweaking but I’m definitely on the right path. I have learned to love and trust God and myself.  The passion I’m blessed to wake up to every morning is to do more…do better, and make a positive difference in the world!

I stood on the balcony of our room that last morning mesmerized by a beautiful sunrise over a vast blue ocean…in awe of God’s art…things that money can’t buy.

We all have one life and one chance to live it.  Do it well and on purpose!

 

from the desk of Ameenah 

 


 

 

Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired!


There is a story that I heard many years ago from author and motivational speaking, Les Brown; who I was honored to meet and get a picture with back in 1995…


I was walking down the street and happened to see a man sitting on his porch. Next to the man was his dog who was whining and whimpering. I asked the man “What’s wrong with your dog” The man said “He’s laying on a nail”. I asked “Laying on a nail? Well why doesn’t he get up?” The man then replied “It’s not hurting bad enough”

I love this story! How often do we whine…whimper and complain about something but never do anything about it! A job you hate, bad relationships, depression, Incomplete goals?

Well I woke up this morning guilty of that myself! I was sick and tired of being sick and tired of complaining about a certain thing and jumped out of bed and decided that today was the day that I was going to get my butt off of that nail and create the change I needed to move forward!

This is a Great day! Counting  blessings and have an attitude of gratitude!

Are YoU sitting on a nail today? Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired of not getting what you desire from life; just not bad enough to seek and implement the change you need to give you what you need and want to be happy?

You know the saying…

“Crazy is repeating the same thing and expecting a different result”  or  “Do nothing and you will be guaranteed to get nothing!”

Why not make this the day that YoU decide your tired of sitting on that rusty old nail…Ouch!

    Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

                                                                             – karen Kaiser Clark


 

 

You are the script writer for the movie of your life!

How is it going so far? Is there anything you would like to change? Is there another direction you want it to take?

The great thing is that since YoU are incharge and responsible for your life YoU have the power to change the script! Sometimes we know that we need to change it but F.E.A.R. False Expectations Appearing Real gets in the way and puts us in freeze mode.

Feel the fear but do it anyway! (the name of a great book I read years ago) Take little steps…like testing the pool water before you plunging in for a swim.

You‘ll find that the more you do the more confident you get …the more confident you get the more you will do!

Each day you get a little older and the reality is that no one gets out of this world alive! So…do you want to live it with purpose and passion or just exist? Do you want to be extraordinary or ordinary?

Are you going nurture and use the talents and gifts God gave you or let them die from starvation?

Yes! Life is a challenge but nothing worth having or doing comes easy, so armour yourself with faith in your higher power, confidence in yourself and  supportive people then fasten your seat belt and be ready for the ride!

Your script…Your movie!  5..4..3..2..1.. Roll it!

 

 


 

 

So your man walked out on you! Now what??

It’s been almost two years since my husband abandoned me. Now I’ve seen this kind of stuff on Life Time, and read about it in the soap magazines, but do people really up and walk away with no rhyme or reason or attempted sorry excuse?

Well I am here to say from firsthand experience that Yes they do!

My husband announced to me that he was leaving so casually that I kept waiting for him to say “you know honey… I’m just joking …”so I could tell him that it wasn’t funny.

It was a Sunday morning and we were going through our normal ritual of stripping the sheets from the bed and gathering towels to do laundry.  Our home, like many others in our middle class neighborhood, was upside down with no equity or help for modification. Frustrating….But life has its ups and downs…you ride them like a big wave, with the faith that in the end you’ll be okay…

The conversation went like this, me… “So honey what do you want to do?

“I’m sick of this house and sick of dumping my money into it; (he seemed to forget that our money was being dumped into it) the bank can take the keys I’m sick of it. They can have it! Let it go into foreclosure!”

“Okay…”I say…”but…If we let it go into foreclosure where will we live? This will go on our credit report.”

“We get a place before it goes on the credit report…” he said, as I’m holding a crumbled sheet in my arms, and watching him stuff the other one into the laundry basket. He then turns to me and says, “No, I’m going to get a place before it gets on the credit report! I’m leaving the house and this marriage!”

Now at this point… my heart is skipping beats uncontrollably and I’m thinking… what just happened here? I ask… “Did you just say you’re leaving the house but I’m not going with you? What?” Suddenly I’m feeling sick to my stomach.

As he continues to stuff clothes into the laundry basket he mumbles something about “I wouldn’t understand…”

We were 5 days away from family and friends coming to town to celebrate my son’s college graduation…7 days from celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary, and two weeks away from one of my dreams coming true:  I was a published author about to have a book signing in “Barnes & Nobles”.

Was this the same man that told me two weeks earlier at dinner, before leaving for a business conference, how beautiful I was and how much he loved and was proud of me? Was this the same man that at thanksgiving told my family how happy he was that he was so loved and accepted by everyone?

To this day my husband has never told me why he left… I surely didn’t know then, and I don’t care to know now.

I truly believe God had been preparing me for that day. The book I had written was called “Depression Free…A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness.”  The day of my book signing, a few women walked up to me, and along with having their copies signed, they wanted to share with me what they were going through. I told them that I knew the tools in the book were useful because they gave me the ability to stay sane at a very crazy moment in my life!

A close co- worker of mine still reminds me to this day how amazed she is at how I handled that life altering stage I went through. She says she would have gone crazy.  That however is where our tough life choices come into play. It’s not what happens to us, but how we handle what happens to us.

  • Pray and count your blessings
  • Choose to keep your P.O.W.E.R. ( see below)
  • Don’t allow what he did to depress you
  • Understand that love is sometimes not enough…a person has to want to fix their own issues

P.ray and keep God first!

O.utsmart an energy drainer

W.ear your confidence with style

E.mpower your dreams

R. ise above your circumstances

You may ask: why would I share such a personal story with you? Well…there’s a great saying by Maya Angelou…”when you have been healed…Go out and heal someone else!” It is what it is…but if my sharing helps you or someone you know then my pain and experience has not gone in vain.

Life is too short to be bogged down with stuff! So let Go and let God…Choose to be happy!!

Ameenah Ross is a nurse, freelance writer, and author of the inspirational book: Depression Free, A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness.

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