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TO GROW WE MUST NOT FEAR CHANGE

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FEAR can keep you from making positive changes that you know would be good for you. It’s okay to feel the fear; we all do at some time in our lives but don’t let it immobilize you.

Feel the fear…then push it aside and do what you need to do any way. You’ll stretch and grow or you can choose to stay where you are and be comfortable and stagnate.

I had a fear of talking in front of groups of people. I grew up a shy person and I hated it! I was the student in the class who knew the answer but was afraid to raise her hand. I was the girl at the party who hid in the corner, holding up the wall, plus at the age of 11 an accident left me with a burn and scar on the side of my face. The cruel kids at school called me scar-face which added to the shyness.

Writing was my passion. I kept journals, wrote poems and short stories. I ached to stand in front of an audience and share my work, but I couldn’t. The thought terrified me. Even in college I found ways to escape speaking in front of the class; however that worked against me when participation was a percentage of the grade.

Many years later I shared a poem with a good friend and told him of my fear of speaking in front of groups. He was a videographer for a television station and boy was he funny, outgoing and a wiz at making people comfortable in front of a camera. He became my coach, videotaping me as I read poetry and other writings. When I felt silly and uncomfortable he pointed out my progress, always encouraging and inspiring me to reach my potential.

For a birthday gift he paid for me to attend a Dale Carnegie public speaking course. I was amazed to see how many successful professionals shared my fear.
With a lot of work and determination, the fear began to lose its grip on me; I put myself in situations forcing me to express myself in front of groups. It was a challenge.
I applied the “fake it till you make it” mantra and it worked. Shyness and the fear of speaking in front of others had kept me in a prison without bars. Eventually the fear was put to rest  and along with it, shyness.

I made a change and the change changed my life! Don’t procrastinate another day. If there is something you need to do to better your quality of life, feel the fear and take action anyway!

 

from the desk of Ameenah Ross

 

 

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MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY – 50 THINGS I’VE LEARNED

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#45 THAT LOVE SOMETIMES MEANS LETTING GO

Life is full of lessons that make us grow…Someone gave me this poem to read years ago, the message is still powerful today.

Letting Go

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To “let go” does not mean to stop caring; it

Means I can’t do it for someone else.

To “let go” is not to cut myself off; it’s the

Realization I can’t control another.

To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow

Learning from natural consequences.

To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which

Means the outcome is not in my hands.

To “let go” is not to try to change or blame

Another, it’s to make the most of myself.

To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.

To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To “let go” is not to judge, but to allow another

To be a human being.

To “let go” is not to be in the middle, arranging

All the outcomes, but to allow others to affect

Their own destinies.

To “let go” is not to be protective, it’s to permit

Another to face reality.

To “let go” is not to deny, but to accept.

To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue, but

Instead to search out my own shortcomings

And correct them.

To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my

Desires, but to take each day as it comes and

Cherish myself in it.

To “let go” is not the regret the past, but to

Grow and live for the future.

To “let go” is to fear less and love more.

May we all know when to let go …let God …and Let live!

Has there been a time when you needed to let go and found it difficult? 

 

From the desk of Ameenah

http://www.ameenahross.com