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Life is full of lessons that make us grow…Someone gave me this poem to read years ago, the message is still powerful today.

Letting Go

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To “let go” does not mean to stop caring; it

Means I can’t do it for someone else.

To “let go” is not to cut myself off; it’s the

Realization I can’t control another.

To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow

Learning from natural consequences.

To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which

Means the outcome is not in my hands.

To “let go” is not to try to change or blame

Another, it’s to make the most of myself.

To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.

To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To “let go” is not to judge, but to allow another

To be a human being.

To “let go” is not to be in the middle, arranging

All the outcomes, but to allow others to affect

Their own destinies.

To “let go” is not to be protective, it’s to permit

Another to face reality.

To “let go” is not to deny, but to accept.

To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue, but

Instead to search out my own shortcomings

And correct them.

To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my

Desires, but to take each day as it comes and

Cherish myself in it.

To “let go” is not the regret the past, but to

Grow and live for the future.

To “let go” is to fear less and love more.

May we all know when to let go …let God …and Let live!

Has there been a time when you needed to let go and found it difficult? 


From the desk of Ameenah


Thank YoU!



Hi Guys!  …I’d like to take the time to thank those that attended my “Depression Free:  A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness” book signing held this past Sunday.  The turnout was great, and it was a fun very successful event!  I enjoyed meeting new people and was happy to have the love and support of those I knew…also heartwarming was hearing the personal stories people shared with me.

During the book signing, I got many positive comments about a particular chapter in my book entitled “My 50 Things I’ve Learned”.  In this chapter, I share a list of 50 helpful tips to live by, and I have found that these tips have been very instrumental in helping me navigate this huge journey called life.  Since I received so much positive feedback on this chapter, I have decided to share it with my followers.

Starting on Monday, I will be introducing my “Motivational Monday”, where I will share an excerpt every week from “Depression Free:  A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness”.  This will be in addition to my regular blog posts.

Hope you enjoy and remember: Live life with Passion & Purpose!

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Until next time!!



So, if you’re thinking, ” Maybe I can help,” please do!


Like millions of people I was shocked and saddened at the death of Robin Williams…I admired his work in the movies and his ability to tickle your funny bone. I especially loved “Patch Adams” because as a nurse and mental health advocate I know how important humor is in our lives. I once attended a workshop with the real Patch Adams and loved every moment of it.
As someone who knows depression I wish I could have shared with him what brought me out of that dark hole.

Robin Williams…R.I.P. You will be missed!

Depression…will have you existing behind a veil of darkness. Slowly, killing your dreams and goals…
Over 20 years ago I overdosed on prescription pain medications and over the counter drugs, ironically I was a nurse on the psychiatric unit of a hospital. I was great at taking care of others while my own baggage was becoming too much to bear.
When I awoke in an emergency room I knew I had hit the bottom of the black hole that had been haunting me… That end was my beginning of a journey to claim my life of passion and purpose that I deserved to have.
Since that time I have dedicated myself to helping educate others on depression; prevention and resources for help.
Extremely important, is breaking the stigma connected to depression that keeps many people from reaching out for the help they need.

As you see…depression does not discriminate. It doesn’t care about how famous you are…the color of your skin, your age, how many degrees you have or how much money you have in the in the bank. Look around you…Many people wear mask to hide what they’re really feeling, after all…what would happen if YOU knew?

The passing of Robin Williams has shed light around the world on this illness…hopefully it will help save someone else’s life. 

Listen to your friends and loved ones who may be going through a rough time…Sometimes what they don’t say may speak louder than what they do say.
Don’t be afraid to ask “How are you really doing?
Let them know that they can trust you and that you really care.
Follow through with them to find the help they need.
If you’re not sure how to approach the conversation, talk to someone who can advise you , here is one of many 24 hour hotlines.

Suicide Prevention & Crisis Hotline 1-800-273-8255

If you’d like to check out my book …Depression Free… A Wise Woman’s Guide to Healing and Happiness you can click below:


Let’s care for one another and strive to live with passion and purpose!


25 Things I’ve Learned While Growing Up!


Every day I enjoy my morning walk around the lake. I find it  spiritually uplifting.  The birds are singing…frogs are croaking and chirping…squirrels are scurrying across the path playing and looking for food.. As I walk and say “good morning”, or  nod or smile to passerby’s, I’m reminded of the blessings I need to count instead of the things I sometimes feel like whining about.
Here’s 25 Things I’ve Learned:

1. That you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else.
2. That you can’t live in the past and work on building a better future at the same time.
3. To trust your thoughts and instincts because they’re usually right.
4. That adopting a positive and optimistic attitude can change your life.
5. That YoU are responsible for your own happiness.
6. To be kind and forgiving to yourself.
7. To count your blessings and be grateful for what you do have, instead of complaining about what you don’t.
8. That some people become envious when you do well and are happy.
9. That It is better to be alone and at peace than in a relationship and unhappy.
10. That family can be people you have no blood ties to.
11. That people are not mind readers. Don’t expect them to know what you think or feel; you have to tell them.
12. To be assertive, or people are inclined to ignore or take advantage of you.
13. That you can’t change what you didn’t get as a child, but you can nurture and get it for yourself now.
14. That you should enjoy your own company.
15. That you should never sell yourself short.
16. That your heart can feel like it’s broken into a million pieces, but God can mend it back.
17. That blood ties can mean nothing at all.
18. To trust God and yourself completely.
19. That your life can change in an instant, to the good or the bad.
20. To value your time and use it wisely, because time is one thing that we never get back.
21. That when someone you love has passed, they are still very much alive in your heart.
22. That some friends are forever and some you out grow.
23. That there is a solution to every problem; we just have to take the time to find it.
24. Not to let your ego or pride keep you from saying, “I’m sorry” or “I love you.”
25. That you have to say “No” sometimes and stick to it for your own well-being.

From the desk of Ameenah Ross




butterfly transition



Changes in our lives begin when we learn to trust ourselves more and others less… when we stop trying to be everything to everyone… when we no longer feel guilty over things we can’t control.

Changes begin when we create a circle around us full of positive and supportive people.

Changes begin when we put our own emotional, mental and physical needs first.

Changes begin when we let go of the things that poison our spirits and soul; like hate, anger … and the need for revenge.

Changes begin when we let go and let our Higher Power take control and lead the way…when we can forgive, for our own sake.

Changes begin when we are grateful for what we do have instead of what we don’t.

Changes begin when we love who we are, accepting flaws and all… yet, willingly working on being the best we can. Why? Because we are all-stars in God’s universe, and have our own light to shine.

Like the butterfly, whose struggle to emerge from its cocoon is necessary to present itself to the world with all of its beauty and splendor …We humans, have the ability to use our struggles and challenges to transform ourselves and our lives too. We can create a life of abundance, happiness, fulfillment, and so much more!
Today, I’m going to work on a change…how about you?

THE FORGIVENESS ADVANTAGE (Tools for happier living)

dove   Forgiving someone who has wronged you can be an extremely difficult thing to do, that person may not even ask for forgiveness or in your eyes even deserve to be forgiven …but you know what… the thing is that you’re really forgiving them for yourself! You forgive so your heart, soul and spirit can heal… you close that door and open a window with opportunities for emotionally healthy living and loving. Forgiving doesn’t mean that you put your head in the lion’s mouth again or in harm’s way. No… you learned the lesson and you move on. In order for me to forgive, I had to ask myself if I’ve ever needed to have anyone forgive me, and though I would like to think I’m perfect…I’m not; I’ve even had to go to God and ask for forgiveness. So I had to ask myself how can I be granted forgiveness if I’m not willing to forgive. My experiences have taught me that by letting go and letting God take control that you can free yourself from the bondage that hate and anger can hold you in. Life has an expiration date so I choose to do my best to live it well and happy until that time… I wonder what the world would be like if we practiced a little more forgiveness, hmm…Just asking.













  • Count your blessings… one is that You can read this blog!
  •  Look in the mirror…  Tell yourself 3 things you love about you.
  •  Do something nice for someone, sMiLe…give a hug…ask how are you today?   and mean it, say I loVe you to someone who would enjoy hearing it from you (don’t  take life for granted) give an old fashion card (not E card)  write a sweet note the old fashion way…  simple things to do, that mean a lot!
  •  Live today as though it were your last, Yet live it as though YoU had Forever!


 Oh…and maybe exchange the soda, and junk food for something healthy and a little exercise won’t hurt either!